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Life with Zoe
Zoe is lovely and cuddly, and likes to be held upright next to my chest, which I really love as well. She's nestling there in a sling now as I type this; a sling that Bethany never took to, because she always liked to lie flat and sprawled out.

Bethany as a newborn had no concept of day and night; it was all the same to her. Zoe already has a very clear division into day and night - they're just the wrong way round from the rest of us. She's already in a fairly reliable routine, just not a convenient one. She has a very long sleep in the late morning, and sleeps quite a lot in the afternoon and evening, but she's awake pretty much solidly between midnight and 8am, and feeding nearly constantly, which is very tiring. The nights I've been alone in the hospital with her, which is the majority of the nights so far, that's been especially difficult because I've had to take care of her by myself all that time; whereas Wednesday night and last night were a bit better because Alex was there to help, and we had our bouncy crib, which is wonderful and allowed her (and us) to snooze briefly between feeds rather than going straight from one to the next.

She's quieter and easier than Bethany was during the daytime, and will lie happily looking at things or just cuddling. I don't know how much of that is a genuine personality difference and how much is just her being a bit lethargic from the jaundice - I don't want to enjoy that aspect if it's actually a consequence of her illness, but I think it's OK - I think Bethany was unusually active and demanding and probably most newborns are more like Zoe is.

She's already quite patient at waiting a minute or so for a feed while I faff about with pillows etc. She seems to intuit that milk is on the way, and wait contentedly. When she's not content, her cry is very high-pitched and actually relatively quiet, almost like a whistle, and it's only after a couple of minutes of that that she progresses to full-on yelling.

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From: annekrogers Date: November 22nd, 2013 11:48 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm sure you know all this and maybe recommendations have changed, but I'm going so share what my mum shared with me and may or may not have helped with my own kids - i.e. they were never this bad, nor were the results so amazing I'd say everyone must try this.

Set a frequency for day time feeding and if possible wake up them up and feed - yep it might not work, depending on how they are finding feeding, no sleeps longer than that gap in the day time.

Night time entertainment is non existant, if they cry they only get cuddles and milk and it stays dark - this is utterly horrible if they decide the only thing to do is cry.

That said, if she's still all over the show, once Alex is back at work there might be some times I can take Bethany for a bit whilst you and Zoe sleep.
woodpijn From: woodpijn Date: November 23rd, 2013 05:57 pm (UTC) (Link)
I think it's improving - she didn't feed constantly last night, and she's fed a lot more today.
Night-time entertainment is definitely nonexistent. Towards the end of a long night it's all I can bring myself to do to pick her up and feed her.
Today we went to a birthday party of one of B's friends, and a brief supermarket trip, so that was quite interesting daytime entertainment for Zoe.

Thanks, I may well take you up on that next week.
From: annekrogers Date: November 24th, 2013 03:52 pm (UTC) (Link)
For me it seemed like having two was easier in terms if providing day time entertainment though it's more when they get a bit older and want more visual stimulation but aren't picking up toys themselves.
atreic From: atreic Date: November 24th, 2013 09:06 pm (UTC) (Link)
Congratulations! I'm sorry it's all been a bit exciting, and hope you manage to get some rest and enjoy time with your beautiful family! (I think the latter of those is more likely than the former for a while, but I hope it gets better!) :-)
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